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Posted one year ago
I am new to this forum, my 17 year old daughter admitted a couple of weeks ago that she has 'issues with food'. Something that I had suspected for a while, but was probably burying my head in the samd about. I am really struggling as she has been to the doctors and had blood tests (she gets the results tomorrow), but she doesn't want me to be with her when she speaks to the doctor. I don't know how to support her best, as I feel she won't open up to me fully. I feel like I am always treading on egg shells around her, scared that I might say something that upsets her. We have always had a good relationship, but this seems to have changed. One minute she is my happy laughing daughter, the next she is snapping at me. I have tried to encourage her to eat some food and she came shopping with me to choose things she likes and wants to eat, but I am worried that she could be deceiving me. I'm sorry to ramble on, but I just feel I have no-one to discuss this with!
Admin 179 posts
Hi, a few months have passed, I thought that I would get in touch and see how you and your daughter are doing
HI and welcome and it is good to see you using this online community. I am the administrator for this site but my driver for this has been my experience when my daughter was first diagnosed, I felt very isolated and worried and struggled to find any information.
Please do have a look through the articles on the parent and carers homepage as the more that you understand about the illness the better. My daughter has now had anorexia for 6 years however I kept learning more as I researched and complied the information pages. Treading on eggshells is such a true phrase; it is difficult to know how to respond to the sunshine and showers. Sometimes it seems as if your daughter has been abducted and replaced with someone that you just cant recognise. From conversations that I have had with my daughter throughout her illness it seems that when her behaviour was erratic, hurtful and unpredictable were the times when she felt most frightened. Your daughter will probably be feeling worried or frightened about something, that something is not always discoverable, sometimes it is just a low mood, sometimes it is their thoughts and at other times it may l be something more tangible.
My daughter eventually lets me in to appointments sometimes but you can ask her to give the nhs to share their findings with you. But I am sorry if she is at the beginning of the illness she may be more secretive, she may lie and hide food etc. It seems crazy that this is your daughter doing this, but the sooner that you understand the course that the illness can take the better for you. And please keep posting on here.
Your post was not a ramble at all, there is a lot to say, it is a complex illness.